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I'm Thomas, a PhD clinical psychologist and author helping you optimize your social and psychological health. New episodes go live every two weeks on Spotify and https://www.youtube.com/@DrThomasSmithyman

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There are 3 different styles of comparison in the comparison trap. I'll walk you through the psychological benefits and costs, as well as how to stop comparing.

You can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear

Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com .

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There are 3 different styles of comparison in the comparison trap. I'll walk you through the psychological benefits and costs, as well as how to stop comparing.

You can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear

Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com .